Leading like you row a boat

I have this mental assumption that I can’t tell anyone to do anything. Some of that is rooted in me – I don’t like being told to do things! Some because I’ve rarely held a position where I have direct authority over anyone. And mostly – I like to think – because I respect others and I think everyone does their best work when they choose to do something.
Two oars
Hence my mental model of leadership is a rowing boat. There are two oars and you need both. One oar is marked authority and the other leadership – although I think of it more as inspiring and motivating people. I’m not big on authority, I don’t like people having authority over me so I don’t like using that oar, I work mostly with the other one.
Perhaps this is because of my early leadership experience… back in my 20s I was active in my local politic party, but it could have been almost any local voluntary group. Nobody was paid, everyone gave time freely because they believed in something and wanted (political) change. Mostly this seemed to involve sitting in an old hall and listening to someone talk about the way things should be.
Young and enthusiastic I was quickly made branch secretary. I got to sit at the front, with the local chair. I had power, I controlled the agenda. I was responsible for getting leaflets delivered, writing and distributing minutes (I tried e-mail but few people had it then), completing forms for party HQ and so on. Leg work. I was a leader I was very much the servant of the party members.
No authority
I needed help in my work but I didn’t have the power or authority to tell anyone to do anything. It was all optional for everyone. All I could do was ask for help. If I made my case well, or got people into habits, I would get more help. If I’d been interested I could have started to crawl my way up the political ladder but I decided not to.
In my mind, getting people to do something means asking them for help. It means setting out what needs doing and asking for volunteers. It is about appealing to what they want and showing them how it could make the world, and their life, better. It can mean inspiring people to do more – in my 20s I wasn’t very good at that but I observed how others could inspire me.
In my career I have seldom held positions which give me really access to the authority oar. Most of my career – as a coach, trainer, speaker, advisor/consultant – I set out what might be done, what needs doing, and then people have the choice to help, or not.
Enrollment
My thinking and logic is massively influenced by a 1992 paper I first read in 2003: Enrollment Management, Managing the Alpha AXP Program (IEEE subscription required, free in Digital Technical Journal, 1992.) It might be old but Peter Conklin’s paper deserves to be better know.
I take this thinking into the way I work and the way I try to bring change. Anyone who has done training with me will know, my sessions usually finish with a dialogue sheet exercise were people and teams decide what they want to do.
In my mind when I do training sessions I’m doing two things: 1. I am letting people practice new ideas. 2. I am laying out a stall of things that might make their work – and their lives – better. Of course, all the way through I’m trying to motivate and inspire them to try the new ideas. Then at the end I say “Of all the things I’ve talked about: which do you want to do?” I step back and let the sheets collect the actions. My sessions have a pretty good record of creating change and I’m convinced giving people choice is a big part of that.
One session in the Netherland stands out in my memory more than any other. The team on one table listed what they wanted to do and finished by saying “If our managers will let us”. I turned around to face a table were the managers were also doing the exercise and said “Andre, can they?”
Authority shy
So when I’m put in a position where I do have authority it is not automatic for me. I shy away from telling people what to do and hate assigning work. Its nice to know I can fall back on that, and my requests for volunteers are probably received differently when people know I can use authority, but I really don’t want people to do what they don’t want to do.
Hence the rowing boat metaphor with an oar each for authority and leading. I’m rowing with the inspiration oar. (Of course, the metaphor breaks down because you can’t row a boat using just one of two oars but hay ho, the model works for me.)
Let me know what you think. I’d love to know if I’ve struck a chord with others.
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